A child’s lying is not an inherent behavior. It is based on learning and absorbing from family upbringing or learning in school from friends. However, each child begins to have different lies and found that lying was associated with child development. Children at different ages have different reasons for lying and how to deal with them. They are divided according to age as follows:
Children aged 2–4 years
Toddlers and preschool are just beginning to develop language skills. Begin to learn to communicate easily what you want. It’s an age that likes to play roles. but still cannot differentiate between the imaginary and real world. In addition, children at this age begin to express themselves in order to resist what they do not like or to avoid conflict.
Children at this age do not have the skills to understand what lying is. They are too young to be punished for telling lies, so parents should speak to their children carefully. Use words that are easy to understand. for children to understand the actual situation And avoid scolding or using derogatory words, such as being called a child of a liar. This may cause the child to feel guilty and create a knot in his heart.
Children ages 5–10
The development of school-age children will begin to understand more about lying. And it’s the age where they tend to lie more often to test if their actions will be caught or punished. especially lying about school Like friends or homework, most children at this age do not want to lie or hide the truth. They just lack the skills to deal with incidents and want to be accepted by adults. Therefore, try to choose a method that will be least resisted.
Whether the child lacks the ability to solve problems or wants to avoid stressful situations Parents should pay attention to teaching their children how to cope and find the right solution when they encounter an uncomfortable situation. And should instill in children the consequences of their own actions. Parents should also set a good example for children and be careful of lying to them. Because children at this age are observant and may be able to imitate the actions of adults.
Children ages 11–13
A child at this age is close to becoming a teenager. They often tell lies to gain acceptance from their peers. to increase their social status or to increase self-worth Children’s habitual lies are often the result of attempts to defy rules or regulations that they don’t want. Children at this age may think that there is no need to tell their parents about everything and will lie when they feel their privacy is invaded.
Parents should show concern and understanding. By asking and listening to the reasons for the child’s lies. Children at the age of adolescence are known to tell lies for the comfort of others (White Lie), which parents should remind children of the importance and benefits of tell the truth so that children understand when lying becomes a habit and may cause problems later.
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